Colossians 3:13 (NIV)
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
When someone hurts us, we want revenge. We want to take matters into our own hands and exact vengeance on them. They deserve it. Forgiving someone isn’t really on our radar until retribution has been paid.
They don’t deserve forgiveness.
But if we sit down and are honest with ourselves; when we won’t forgive, it affects us way more than it affects others.
Someone once told me that “refusing to forgive someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.”
The anger, bitterness, and desire for justice can deeply affect us. And, it creates a barrier making restoration nearly impossible.
But why should we forgive someone? They hurt us!
If you have ever truly known what it is to be forgiven; to experience God knowing exactly what you did, and yet still love you and to forgive you anyway; then you understand how freeing and empowering that is. Scripture tells us that if we have experienced this, than certainly we would want others to experience this as well.
So, maybe there is a reason we are having a hard time forgiving others. And maybe that reason is because we have not fully experienced what it is like to be forgiven ourselves.
Forgiveness will leave its mark on you. It changes you. It helps you to see the person in front of you rather than their decision.
The grace forgiveness brings is contagious and will give you a desire to share it with others.
So the real question is; is there something getting in the way of you forgiving others; and is that something a need to experience forgiveness yourself?
- Pastor Chris
What are two or three things that keep you from forgiving people? Are they worth it?
Why do you think it works to pray for people who hurt you?
Why do you think God wants us to forgive?
Is it hard to ask for forgiveness from God?
Is it hard to accept forgiveness from God?